I help couples who are having trouble communicating build bridges that honor both perspectives.
I help couples who are on the verge of divorce find ways to grow deeper as a couple and remain together.
I help couples who are struggling redefine their relationships. My goal is to help couples distinguish between running away from a painful situation and moving toward a healthier life.
I help couples who discover they cannot remain together find new ways to remain in relationship with each other – ways that make sense to both parties and which are emotionally gratifying to both.
As you know, it is important that both voices be heard by the person you go to for help with your relationship. It is unfair to feel as if you are the only one in the couple who needs to do all the changing, all the bending, all the compromising. Both partners have new things to learn about each other. Both partners can learn to change comfortably with a new understanding of what their differences are.
As partners’ stress decreases with this new knowledge, skillful communication becomes possible, and mutual understanding and respect grow.
A relationship that was once painful to both parties can become re-energized, renewing the love that led to the partnership in the first place.
On the other hand, some partnerships benefit from the creation of a new constellation of how to live. There are many new ways of doing this, and if this is the course your relationship takes, we will explore these until we find one that feels right for you.
I will support you every step of the way. You will not be alone.
I realize that it is difficult to talk about this topic. Many couples come to me without ever having said anything to anyone about the challenges they are facing. This is because AS shows up most intensely in the realm of the intimate relationship. This feels very private to most couples. It is not casual conversation.
I work with all couples – individuals in straight, gay, and polyamorous relationships. There are nuanced differences among them, but their pain and confusion are similar.
I am glad you found me. My coaching practice is international. That means that no matter where you live, if you can use English as your primary language for communication, we can work together. If your first language is Italian, German, or French, we can use that as well to supplement our conversations in English. We will find a way to work with the time zone differences and any possible language considerations.
We can work online, which means you can fit our sessions into your busy day at the office, or from the comfort of your home. You are therefore able to avoid the time and stress involved in driving to my office. Also, because they are offered online, you are able to access my services with any device from anywhere in the world.
Or you are welcome to come into my office in Seattle for our sessions, if you prefer to meet in person.
I am here when you are ready, and I look forward to hearing from you.